Thursday, 26 September 2013

Let's talk about it ... or an alternative .. view to my hypermetropia

It's been quite some time since I first realized I need to hold my book further away in order to be able to see more clearly... and it's about time I do something more about it.

However, some things are not told by doctors, they don't even test you for them, you must think about them for yourself, search for them, if you so wish... I don't deny my tendency to turn inside and do a self-inspection, perhaps a bit more than the usual, but the following has come to me rather than I have come to it! It came as an alternative "view" to my hypermetropia.

You don't need to be of an age to find some meaning (or none at all!) to what follows. Nor your hands need to feel suddenly a bit ...shorter when you try to read a book or even worse, a number on your mobile!!!
This post is for all ages!
So let's begin!

❥ Everything is a matter of perspective and position. I guess I don't need to explain this further... either you accept it and we go on, or not.

❥ You have a clearer picture from a distance... The closer you are to the subject of observation, the more blurred the picture gets. Two-three steps to the back can make the difference and give you a more complete picture... plus, a more focused one.
Especially, if you are inside the ... problem/issue under observation! Then, the need becomes stronger to take a distance from things, in order to be able to see clearly ... and take a breath, too!

❥ Things remain the same! They don't change (at least not the way we think they do). They weren't blurred before and became clear now. It was you, who couldn't see before and had to change your position in order to see. Don't be hasty to blame yourself! Acknowledge your willingness and even your ability to think about changing your initial point.

❥ Space and the movement in it usually happens in relation to time... Except from changing our position, we often need to also wait... Patiently! This is not easy at all, I know. But it proves to be worth it!
Things usually get to a solution by themselves, or at least they get better IF ... we give them some time.
Of course, if we insist on a linear perception of time... otherwise things ARE a lot more simple! 

❥ Finally, some things cannot be seen with your eyes and it's not your long-sightedness to blame, nor will they improve with a pair of glasses! Perhaps you should try some other way? Emotions, intuition, your heart or simple your faith? Those gifts we were born with, obviously for some reason?

In closing, I'd like to give you a simple example to help you digest all of the above...
There are so many times when we might think that a certain reaction of ours is given, that some things are given... but they aren't. We're used to reacting in a certain way to certain situations and it's a lot easier for us to recall our most recent reaction to a similar situation, instead of asking ourselves "why" and "could it be better otherwise"?
Our reactions, the ones that need some ... alignment, are usually based on fear.
The desperate screaming, or hysteria towards our kid that is playing or daydreaming instead of studying, are deep down due to our fear that he/she might go to school without being well-prepared ⇝ become a poor student ⇝ get involved with similarly poor students that will be a bad influence ⇝ become a skunk and a useless person with all that this involves! What's the result of this? None of the desired and of course, none not expected, from my experience!

How different would it be if our reaction was based on love? Yes, wherever love comes in, it does miracles and it also dissolves any fear!
Instead of screaming and yelling, we could come in the room with a smile, start a conversation about something IRRELEVANT and neutral, reminding to ourselves over and over again that our kid is very productive, very clever and that in any case, we love him/her very much! On our way out, we could ask "what's your program for today?"
This means that we refer to him/her as a mature individual, responsible for his/her acts and choices, without causing an action (our screaming) - reaction (the kid's screaming and eventually the fact that he/she ignores us) scene.

Not easy at all, especially in the beginning! It takes double the time and effort to un-learn something!!!
But it's worth all the effort! I speak from experience!
Little by little things become easier. ALL it takes is patience and love!
Why not, a final ingredient, as well, that does WONDERS!
Ask for help and guidance! Angels are all around! And if this sounds a bit weird, ask for help from wherever you BELIEVE IN!
And you'll receive 
So much for now...